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Parenting is not that easy, eh?But we can do it........try...the kids today are So lucky......or perhaps the parents today are pampering them....
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Parenting is not that easy, eh?But we can do it........try...the kids today are So lucky......or perhaps the parents today are pampering them....
Appreciation (Story of Appreciation)
One young academically excellent person went to apply for a managerial position in a big company.
He passed the first interview, the director did the last interview, made the last decision.
The director discovered from the CV, that the youth's academic result is excellent all the way, from the secondary school until the postgraduate research, never has a year he did not score .
The director asked, "Did you obtain any scholarship in school?" and the youth answered "none".
The director asked, " Was it your father who paid for your school fees?" the youth answered, my father passed away when I was one year old. It was my mother who paid for my school fees .
The director asked, " Where was your mother working before?" the youth answered, my mother worked as a clothes cleaner. The director requested the youth to show his hand, the youth showed a pair of hands that are smooth and perfect to the director.
The director asked, " Did you ever help your mother wash the clothes before?" The youth answered, never, my mother always wanted me to study and read more books, furthermore, my mother can wash clothes faster than me.
The director said, I had a request, when you go back today, go and help to clean your mother's hands, and then see me tomorrow morning.
The youth felt that his chance of landing the job is high, and when he went back, he happily wanted to clean his mother's hands. His mother felt a little strange and happy but mixed with fearas she showed her hands to the son.
The youth cleaned his mother's hand slowly, his tear dropped down as he did that. It was first time he found his mother's hands were so wrinkled, and bruised. Some bruises incited so much pain that shivered her mother's body when cleansed with water.
This is the first time the youth realized and experienced that it is this pair of hands that washed the cloth everyday to earn him the school fees, the bruises in the mother's hand is the price that the mother paid for his graduation and academic excellence and probably his future.
After finishing the cleaning of his mother's hand, the youth quietly cleaned all the remaining clothes for his mother .
That night, mother and son talked for a very long time.
Next morning, the youth went to the director's office
The director noticed the tear in the youth's eye, asked: " Can you tell me what have you done and learned yesterday in your house?"
The youth answered, " I cleaned my mother's hand, and also finished cleaning all the remaining clothes'.
The director asked, "P lease tell me your feelings."
The youth said, Number 1 , I know what is appreciation. Without my mother, I would not be successful today. Number 2, I know how to work together with my mother, then only I can realize how difficult and tough to get something done. Number 3, I know the importance and value of family relationship.
The director said, " This is what I am asking, I want to recruit a person that can appreciate the help of others, a person that knows the sufferings of others to get things done, and a person that would not put money as his only goal in life to be my manager. You are hired.
Later on, this young person worked very hard, and received the respect of his subordinates. Every employee worked diligently and in a team. The company's result improved tremendously .
A child who has been protected and habitually given whatever he needs, he develops a "entitlement mentality" and always put himself first. He is ignorant of his parents' effort. When he starts working, he assumes every people must listen to him, and when he becomes a manager, he would never know the sufferings of his employees and would always blame others. For this kind of people, he can have good results.. may be successful for a while, but eventually would not feel a sense of achievement, he will grumble and full of hatred and fight for more. If we are this kind of protective parents, are we loving the kid or destroying the kid?
You can let your kid lives in a big house, eat a good meal, learn piano, watch a big screen TV. But when you are cutting grass, please let them experience it. After a meal, let them wash their plates and bowls together with their brothers and sisters. It is not because you do not have money to hire a maid, but it is because you want to love them in a right way. You want them to understand, no matter how rich their parents are, one day their hair will grow grey, just as the mother of that young person. The most important thing is your kid learn how to appreciate the effort and experience the difficulty and learn the ability to work with others to get thing done.
You cannot change your destination overnight,
but you can Change your direction anytime.
He passed the first interview, the director did the last interview, made the last decision.
The director discovered from the CV, that the youth's academic result is excellent all the way, from the secondary school until the postgraduate research, never has a year he did not score .
The director asked, "Did you obtain any scholarship in school?" and the youth answered "none".
The director asked, " Was it your father who paid for your school fees?" the youth answered, my father passed away when I was one year old. It was my mother who paid for my school fees .
The director asked, " Where was your mother working before?" the youth answered, my mother worked as a clothes cleaner. The director requested the youth to show his hand, the youth showed a pair of hands that are smooth and perfect to the director.
The director asked, " Did you ever help your mother wash the clothes before?" The youth answered, never, my mother always wanted me to study and read more books, furthermore, my mother can wash clothes faster than me.
The director said, I had a request, when you go back today, go and help to clean your mother's hands, and then see me tomorrow morning.
The youth felt that his chance of landing the job is high, and when he went back, he happily wanted to clean his mother's hands. His mother felt a little strange and happy but mixed with fearas she showed her hands to the son.
The youth cleaned his mother's hand slowly, his tear dropped down as he did that. It was first time he found his mother's hands were so wrinkled, and bruised. Some bruises incited so much pain that shivered her mother's body when cleansed with water.
This is the first time the youth realized and experienced that it is this pair of hands that washed the cloth everyday to earn him the school fees, the bruises in the mother's hand is the price that the mother paid for his graduation and academic excellence and probably his future.
After finishing the cleaning of his mother's hand, the youth quietly cleaned all the remaining clothes for his mother .
That night, mother and son talked for a very long time.
Next morning, the youth went to the director's office
The director noticed the tear in the youth's eye, asked: " Can you tell me what have you done and learned yesterday in your house?"
The youth answered, " I cleaned my mother's hand, and also finished cleaning all the remaining clothes'.
The director asked, "P lease tell me your feelings."
The youth said, Number 1 , I know what is appreciation. Without my mother, I would not be successful today. Number 2, I know how to work together with my mother, then only I can realize how difficult and tough to get something done. Number 3, I know the importance and value of family relationship.
The director said, " This is what I am asking, I want to recruit a person that can appreciate the help of others, a person that knows the sufferings of others to get things done, and a person that would not put money as his only goal in life to be my manager. You are hired.
Later on, this young person worked very hard, and received the respect of his subordinates. Every employee worked diligently and in a team. The company's result improved tremendously .
A child who has been protected and habitually given whatever he needs, he develops a "entitlement mentality" and always put himself first. He is ignorant of his parents' effort. When he starts working, he assumes every people must listen to him, and when he becomes a manager, he would never know the sufferings of his employees and would always blame others. For this kind of people, he can have good results.. may be successful for a while, but eventually would not feel a sense of achievement, he will grumble and full of hatred and fight for more. If we are this kind of protective parents, are we loving the kid or destroying the kid?
You can let your kid lives in a big house, eat a good meal, learn piano, watch a big screen TV. But when you are cutting grass, please let them experience it. After a meal, let them wash their plates and bowls together with their brothers and sisters. It is not because you do not have money to hire a maid, but it is because you want to love them in a right way. You want them to understand, no matter how rich their parents are, one day their hair will grow grey, just as the mother of that young person. The most important thing is your kid learn how to appreciate the effort and experience the difficulty and learn the ability to work with others to get thing done.
You cannot change your destination overnight,
but you can Change your direction anytime.
VERY GOOD ...
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