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Apr 12, 2010

Domestic Violence

salam guys..
lately..macam - macam citer muncul tentang domestic violence kat malaysia ni.
kat seluruh apatahlagi kan?
sedih n bengang sebenarnya bile aku baca dan terdengar citer - citer begini.
yang paling baru adalah tentang isteri yang kena curah dengan asid getah gara - gara  menolak bile laki dia ajak bersama.
tu belum lagi dengan kes penderaan dan pembunuhan anak - anak kecil..
belum lagi termasuk terpencil dan terpendam konflik dan jenayah rumahtangga yang tak dilaporkan or terpaksa didiamkan demi nak menjaga maruah keluarga dan jugak nama baik.


masa aku kecik dulu..
memang tak dinafikan..parents aku memang selalu mengalami keadaan macam diatas.
tapi mak aku jenis redha..makanya,diujung ari dan saat ni..
dah take dah kejadian mcm tu dah.
berkat doa dan kesabaran mak aku.
by the way,jangan misjudge.
bapak aku sikit pun takderlah berperangai binatang or menyeksa anak bini cumanya dia jenis tak reti nak kontrol kemarahan dan emosi sendiri.
nak buat macamanakan?
upbringing dia dah gitu.
even bapak dia (mean mbah aku ler) memang cara mengajar anak dan isteri yang depa tahu dan dipraktikan aderlah dengan kaki dan tangan.
maybe orang jawa pun memang gitu kot?!entahlah!
beruntunglah sesape yang tak pernah kena penyepak,penampar,terajang dan jugak tak pernah merasa kena ikat kat pokok or tido kat kandang ayam or kambing/lembu tiap kali kena marah.
aku dulu..sikit -sikit kena maki,kena marah,kena tegur.
rimas weih..tapi ade baik buruknyer bile kena camtu.
maybe di otherside nampak cam aku ati kering jer sedangkan hakikatnya,'dalam hati ada taman!'


ape itu domestic violence?
Domestic violence, also known as domestic abuse, spousal abuse, child abuse or intimate partner violence (IPV), can be broadly defined as a pattern of abusive behaviors by one or both partners in an intimate relationship such as marriage, dating, family, friends or cohabitation. Domestic violence has many forms including physical aggression (hitting, kicking, biting, shoving, restraining, throwing objects), or threats thereof; sexual abuse; emotional abuse; controlling or domineering; intimidation; stalking; passive/covert abuse (e.g., neglect); and economic deprivation. Domestic violence may or may not constitute a crime, depending on local statues, severity and duration of specific acts, and other variables. Alcohol consumption and mental illness have frequently been associated with abuse.

dalam erti kata lain...pukul dan mencederakan anak bini,menghina dan merendah - rendahkan maruah isteri or pasangan or perasaan anak.tu yang boleh difahamkan sebagai domestic violence.tapi pelikkan?kalau orang melayu sendiri dan beragama islam pulak tu yang terjadi benda - benda nih..memang aku rasa sangatlah memalukan sebab kalau dulu - dulu..kesedaran tak banyak dan kurang.tapi sekarang..yang terlibat tu orang yang mengaji tinggi,sekolah tinggi.tapi otak letak kat jubur.buat anak bini cam barang.

bagi aku..dah tak relevan dah 'sayangkan anak,tangan - tangankan.sayangkan isteri tinggal - tinggalkan.
hamboi!senang no yerk?
penat and susah payah bni ko mengandung dan jaga anak..sesuka ko jer nak pukul - pukul.
macam ler takde pendekatan lain.
dalam islam sendiri pun takdenyer nak suruh pukul - pukul anak tak bersebab..kalau bersebab pun memang tak digalakkan memukul anak.
tapi rasanya..bukan bangsa kita jer yang ade amalan begini..
even bangsa lain pun ade jugak.




Domestic violence


An illustration from JJ Grandville's Les cent proverbes captioned "Qui aime bien châtie bien" (Who loves well, punishes well), showing a man spanking a child, and another beating his wife.



so?pikir - pikirkanlah..ngeri dengar tapi kenalah amik tindakan dan cara pencegahan..
antara pencegahan yang logik dan tak logik..
  1. bini kena belajo judo or sumo.biar laki tak sesuka nak pukul - pukul kita.(errkk.logikkah?)
  2. bile kena kutuk - kutuk dengan laki,sila pakai earphone or earplug.
  3. sila pakai kevlar suite or armguard complete dengan headgear supaya bile kena serang dengan somi tak cedera.
  4. seandainya dah terkena pukul..bila dah sembuh..sila balas dendam dengan memukul laki anda dengan kayu belantan or hoki hingga dia sendiri cedera sperti anda juga!!
  5. buat report polis 
  6. pikirlah sendiri.cadangan diatas adalah cadangan semata.
apepun..kaunseling dan penghayatan agama memang sangat penting dalam instituasi kekeluargaaan.itu sebab dalam islam,kalau kita nak kawin dengan seseorang kenalah kenal latar belakang dan keperibadiannya.bukan sebab rupa or hartanya..
sekian..
mana yang tak betul tu..betullah yerk?!
















































2 comments:

yatie chomeyl said...

bernas gak idea2 yg ayu bagi tu..tambah2 part pakai ear plug utk xmo dgr tu hehe

zAnNa@mAMaBaTriCE said...

ngeri kan....
tak di bagi pun kena simbah asid....
adoi ler...gila betul laki dia tu...

iskh...aku dulu kecik2 pun rajin gark kena bantai ngan ayah aku. Pakai kepala tali pinggang lagi ko....kitaorg nie, kalau gaduh adik beradik kemain extreme...mana ler ayah aku tak naik hangen....

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